Parents never understand teenagers. They dress wrong and talk wrong. They're outdated in every way. And they certainly will never understand the depth of a child's heartaches.
This is what children themselves usually think at a certain age. Adults cause irritation and stress in teenagers. Therefore, it often happens that teenagers are wildly annoyed with parents and older relatives. After all, they will not help them in any way, but only hinder them in life.
What happens to teenagers
Adolescence is a time of contradictions. On the one hand, children become adults and want to decide everything for themselves.
On the other hand, they still need their parents' care and advice. But they can no longer afford to simply turn to the older generation. Pride does not allow it.
The hormonal background is being reorganized and there are many new emotions. It is hard for a child to keep the avalanche of feelings under control. He is torn by contradictions and new sensations.
At the same time, adolescents are actively forming their personal boundaries and worldview. It is this period that can be decisive for the rest of life.
During adolescence, it is very easy to ruin your emotional health with the wrong approach or excessive pressure.
At this time, children especially need a strong support. And parents need to behave very correctly and carefully in order to be able to become such a support for the teenager and guide him on the right path.
Why parents annoy teenagers
What parents do from the teenagers' point of view:
Stopping you from developing and being yourself
Parents dictate to the child what to do and what to wear. They do not understand that the child wants to express himself. They forbid a lot of things and get in the way with wrong advice. All this causes a lot of stress in teenagers and irritation to parents.
Violating personal space
Adolescence is a time when a child has a life of his or her own. And there is no place for parents in it. But many parents continue to see a teenager as a small child and easily violate his boundaries. Go into the room without knocking, get into things or phone. But to learn to find and assert personal boundaries is necessary.
Don't understand teenage feelings
Many experiences can seem very serious to teenagers. But parents do not share the seriousness. For example, when it comes to about falling in love for the first time or a conflict with a friend. At that moment, these experiences are the strongest and most important for the teenager. They occupy all the thoughts and feelings of the child. But parents may not share the seriousness of the situation.
The pressure of authority
Many adults think they can talk down to teenagers just because they are older. But teenagers are very sensitive to this form of communication. After all, they too claim to be adults. And want adults to treat them as equals. Without unsolicited advice and with due respect.
How to help a teenager
Adolescence is a very challenging period. Both for children and for their parents. The most important thing for parents to remember when dealing with teenagers is that they were teenagers too.
You've been down this road before. You have already experienced these feelings and these experiences. You were also sure that your parents would never understand you. Think back to yourself. And try to understand your teenager.
Your advantage is that this period is behind you and you can tell your experience. How you dealt with excessive emotions. How you survived the first love dramas and how you found yourself.
But this experience should be passed on without pressure or authority. Try to talk to your teenager on an equal footing. And in no way belittle his experiences. After all, now they are sure that his experiences are the most serious.
