After the New Year vacations, children start the second half of the school year. And, as a rule, parents return to the usual role of organizer-controller - to check what classes are tomorrow and whether the child has done his homework. At the same time, in many families the same question is repeated: "Well, I studied by myself, why can't you?". Let's understand why modern children do not like to learn, and what to do about it.
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- Reasons why a child does not like and does not want to learn
- Is it necessary to force learning?
- Tips on how to regain interest in your studies
What prevents a child from learning
Specialists notethat the problem with reluctance to go to school starts already in elementary school. It turns out that before school the child grew up inquisitive and enjoyed learning about the world around him. But after a couple of years of study, his cognitive interest disappears somewhere, and parents have to spend time on persuasion, and sometimes even punishment.
First of allYou need to find out why your child is bored. It often happens that after an illness or vacation it is difficult for him to return to the program, as well as to the regime.
If this is the reason, talk to your child about what interesting things are waiting for him or her there besides school. For example, socializing with friends, participating in school activities or individual favorite subjects. The pleasurable factors may outweigh, and the child will be drawn back into the process.
SecondlyYou need to rule out the possibility of bullying. Try to find out if there are any kids at school who are bullying him. You can use books by psychologists - in our a selection of parenting books there's a book about school bullying.
After all.It is easier for them not to do something where they need to make an effort. By the way, the roots of this problem go back to carefree childhood. According to psychologists, it is because of the fact that now there are no problems with toys and entertainment, children have learned to wait for their wishes to come true. Think back to your childhood - did our parents always immediately buy us something we really wanted, or did we have to "save up for a dream".
Is it necessary to force learning?
Unfortunately, there is no unanimity here. There are as many people as there are opinions. But to make it easier for yourself, you can look at this question in a different way: "How to motivate a child to study?"
In fact, the solution to this question depends on age.
For example, elementary school-aged children it is important to help develop the skill of learning - to read together books that interest the child or to include them in audio format. We won't even mention the personal example when children see their parents with a book instead of a phone or a remote control in their hands.
Kids love gadgets - that's a fact. So, they can download interactive apps to teach them counting, reading, foreign languages in a playful way. It is interesting and easy to put in the memory. The main thing to remember is that the parent is an adult, and the daily regimen must be followed. Even developmental applications on the tablet should obey the rule - "business is time, the sweat of the hour". Discuss in advance, how much screen time per day can be a child. This way, he or she will understand when it's time to move on to other activities.
To put it this way. teenagersYou can talk about the future. For example, if the child dreams of becoming a blogger, study with him the biographies of top Influencers. Most likely, many will have higher education and a sports or creative career behind them. You can set up an experiment - let them run their blog without monetization. So that the child understands that blogging is also work, which requires money and time.
You can also discuss what professions the child will have if he or she fails the exams. Of course, it is possible to get a job as a salesman or a courier, but it is necessary to tell that it is physical labor, and not always steadily paid. In addition, as a start in life during school - it is good, but in the future without education in such professions have no prospects. In this way, the teenager will have a better idea of what awaits him in the adult life he is so eager for.
How to regain interest in learning
The first thing to do is to discuss the situation calmly. Choose an appropriate moment and have a heart-to-heart talk. You can share your memories of the difficulties you had at school and how you coped with them. Recall funny situations in class or moments that were unpleasant for you. Most likely, your child will also relax and want to share his or her school stories.
If you've ruled out the possibility of bullying and that's not the reason, maybe the child just needs a rest. Today's children attend several activities at the same time and live in a constant barrage of information, so it can be good for their brains to reboot. Try to keep him away from screens during the rest - rest means rest! Let him sleep, eat, read, walk, in general, do the usual simple things. As a rule, on the second or third day the child finds interesting activities without gadgets.
Also, do not fixate on the result - for example, "you must pass the math exam perfectly. Break down the goal - passing the exam - into several stages and praise your child for successes in the process. In this way, he will not be stressed and fear of responsibility for failure. On the contrary, he or she will develop confidence that he or she has strong knowledge and nothing to fear.
Remember that it is important to introduce daily routine and discipline from childhood, then it will be easier in the future. About the importance of discipline and how we achieve it in our school lessons, read in this article.
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