Every child is different, and therefore they all perceive failure differently. Some love to learn and for them every failure is a way to make their skills even better. Such children are often praised by their parents for their successes and rarely scolded for embarrassing failures.
And then there are those who avoid failure. They are sure that if they do a lot to win, but still lose, it will only prove their low value. But it is most difficult to motivate a child if he has accepted failure. The whole point is that he has already accepted failure and is sure that he loses all the time because he is not capable of anything.
Child psychologists say you can help your child become more confident and think about successes rather than defeats.
- Remind them every time that effort is more important than ability. At the same time, it is necessary that the efforts of children should be appreciated not only by parents, but also by teachers.
- Teach your child to treat himself or herself with compassion at the exact moment when he or she fails. Researchers have found that everyone who treats themselves with compassion recovers from failures much faster and tries new things with interest.
- Maintain a good relationship with your child. This is especially important for children who avoid or come to terms with failure.
Experts advise parents to talk to their child about how fear of failure can affect their life.
