To impose their interests, views on life or to give the child the opportunity to develop, to show independence, to learn to express their opinions?
What to choose? Actually, if it is necessary to choose as better and more convenient for mom and dad, the answer is obvious - to bring up a son and daughter the way they want, without accepting "do not like", "do not want", "I will not". In priority will be the commands "go to music school", "you will be better in the sports section".
Such categorical parents know in advance what will be "good and bad" for the child. But in fact, moms and dads make life easier for themselves in this way, because there is a certain "plan" and they follow it. When children want to express their opinion, they have to make adjustments to this plan, trying new sections, new schools.
Of course, you don't have to indulge your child's whims in everything, but it is still important to allow them to express their opinions and respectfully accept them. If you want to teach your child to speak his or her mind:
- Talk to him more often. Ask what he/she thinks about what is happening in the cartoon/movie/TV show. Sincerely show that you are really interested in his thoughts. Even though your opinions may not be the same. He should also have his own thoughts and they deserve attention and respect.
- Discuss. If in something your opinions do not coincide, do not give in, but on the contrary, try to lead a discussion, so that already in childhood the child understands that it is important to defend their own opinion.
- Teach the argument by example. A child can learn to stand up for their views if they have a worthy example as a child. Present the workshop today.
So, what can you get in the end, raising a "comfortable" child? In the future, it will be a correct person who is unlikely to become a leader and succeed in his career. He is used to obeying others in everything and has no opinion of his own.
But its complete opposite - a child who as a child could express himself, speak out and was listened to, will grow up confident in himself and his abilities.
