“How can I be a good parent?” — it’s a question asked by 90% of parents around the world. And no one has a single, perfect answer. Thousands of psychologists offer their own theories — many of which contradict each other.
Still, there are some universal truths that no one disputes. They form the foundation for raising a happy, emotionally healthy child. Today, we’ve gathered the 10 most important principles of being a good parent.
How to Be a Good Parent
1. Never Compare Your Child to Anyone Else
Your child is unique — a person with their own strengths, mistakes, and victories. Stop shaming them by comparing them to a “better-behaved” kid. Comparison only destroys confidence and self-worth.
2. Create Regular Family Time
Every child — even a teenager — needs their parents’ presence. Schedule time to spend only together — no phones, no distractions. Keep that promise. Consistency builds trust.
3. Be Fair
Children have a strong sense of justice, especially teens. Divide household tasks evenly. The same goes for privileges and rewards. If your child feels things are unfair, they may also feel unloved or excluded.
4. Truly Listen to Your Child
You are your child’s anchor and safe place. Learn not just to hear, but to listen. Even when they’re simply talking about their day — listen with attention. If you ignore small things, your child won’t come to you with big ones.
5. Respect Their Boundaries
Everyone needs personal space — even children. They have the right to privacy and independence.
Don’t enter their room or touch their things without permission. You can make a deal: you don’t interfere with their stuff, and they keep their space tidy.
6. Include Your Child in Family Decisions
Changes in family life — a move, a renovation, a trip — affect your child too. Give them the right to express their opinion and take part in decision-making.
Don’t just listen and then do what you want anyway. Strive for a compromise that takes their wishes into account.
7. Share Your Child’s Interests
Ask about the music they like, the hobbies they enjoy. Find things you can do together. Shared interests bring you closer — they create a world that belongs only to you and your child.
8. Always Stand by Your Child
Be your child’s advocate, not their prosecutor — especially in public. Defend them first, and only later, in private, calmly discuss what happened and draw fair conclusions.
9. Talk About Everything
Parenting should be built on honesty. Discuss any situation openly. Teach your child to share their emotions, and don’t be afraid to share yours. Honesty breeds honesty.
10. Grow Together with Your Child
You are your child’s main role model. If you’re not curious about life or motivated to grow, they’ll follow your example. You are their window to the world. Offer them new experiences, ideas, and hobbies. When you grow — your child grows too.
Psychologist Tatyana Vashchenkova puts it beautifully: “Children are our best teachers, motivators, and reasons to become better. Don’t dismiss their questions — explore answers together, expand your own knowledge, and share it with them. That’s how you remain a true authority, even during the turbulent teenage years.”
Advice for Parents
None of us are perfect — and being a good parent isn’t easy. Many face burnout and emotional fatigue.
To stay balanced, you need your own life, hobbies, and interests. These personal sources of energy will help you give more to your family. And when managed well, family time can also become a source of joy and inspiration.
Above all — don’t do things out of obligation. Children sense it instantly. Be honest with yourself and with them. That’s what truly makes you a good parent.
