Motivation and child discipline are wonderful and necessary. But parents so often wish that a child would want to try harder on their own. Even without the constant reminder of parents.
The child should be interested in learning new things. That he/she constantly strives for heights and achievements. Learning is a job for the kid, too.. And you can make him want to do it. But at what cost?
How do you motivate a child to strive?
There are many examples of successful people in history. It is said that they achieved everything thanks to their parents' cruel upbringing and total control.
But there are opposite examples. Children who lived in love and understanding. And were able to form successful people only thanks to the right approach and framework in upbringing.
Many people think that in order for a child to learn well, obey parents and be positive from all sides - it is necessary to use cruelty. Especially for a child to strive for achievement.
Yes, children need discipline and clear boundaries. But that doesn't mean that children should be discriminated against. Much less use force. Even moral force. For harmonious psychological development, a child needs a clear structure and order in life. Only through discipline is success born.
Games and discipline
Clear rules do not mean strictness and coercion. Even discipline can be introduced into a child's life through play and interests.
You can start by playfully doing chores and responsibilities. Let the daily routine be an interesting activity. And then it will become a habit.
Put your child in charge of cleaning the house. Or let him plan your week himself. Have him or her make a daily routine not only for him or herself but also for you. Be sure to put all the important things on the list.
All of this will help you accept mandatory chores as part of life. Not as something terrible that does not allow you to rest. This way it will be easier for the child to get used to work. He will not be afraid and avoid responsibility. But also insist on doing important things too. The key is to do it right.
This is the only way that your child will be able to do what he needs to do in order to reach the heights. And you will see how the child himself can achieve any goal without constant motivation from you. Although no one has canceled parental advice and support.
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