Self-confidence is one of the most important qualities of a person for a successful life. Confidence helps a person to overcome any difficulties and to grow over himself every day.
An insecure person will simply not try to achieve something in life. After all, he will be sure in advance that he will fail.
And if there are no challenges, there are no accomplishments.
Very often this quality is called self-esteem. After all, a self-confident person respects himself and evaluates himself highly.
Self-confidence is not an inborn quality, it needs to be developed. But how to do it?
How to improve a child's self-esteem
It is worth noting right away that high self-esteem is not always a good thing. Self-esteem should be healthy and objective.
Ideally, a person should soberly evaluate his or her pros and cons. But in practice it turns out that either a person's self-esteem is too low or high.
Confidence is formed in childhood and parents can very much influence this process.
Parents should notice all of their child's achievements and be proud of them. Then the child himself gets used to the fact that he is good. In fact, a simple habit from childhood forms the very self-confidence and self-respect.
But if the parents belittle any of the child's accomplishments and don't take them seriously, then the child themselves will have no respect for themselves.
It's simple. But in reality, many parents simply forget to praise their child. But they never forget to scold for misbehavior.
But it is important not to overdo it and not to praise your child for literally everything. Only for the cause. Otherwise, the child forms a wrong idea of himself. And as soon as he grows up, the harsh and objective reality will explain to him how things really are.
It is very important that parents never put stamps on a child. For example, do not say «You always do that» or «Why do you always...».
Saying things like that really makes a child believe that they always drop everything or always forget something and it becomes part of their character and a reason to lower their self-esteem.
Boosts any person's confidence by overcoming obstacles and accomplishing things.
Therefore, in order to increase self-esteem, it is important to give the child tasks and praise for their fulfillment. The tasks should be made more difficult over time.
Emphasize to the child that he or she did well. Especially if he or she was afraid he or she would fail.
Tell your child that he or she is strong, smart, and can do anything if he or she wants to. Back up your words with concrete examples.
Psychology of the child
At birth, we are born with a set of certain talents and potential that we may or may not develop.
But self-confidence is not an inborn quality. And parents need to work hard to build high self-esteem in their children.
Achievement is the key to self-confidence. But some achievements can be quite challenging for children.
Therefore, they must learn how to support children competently. This does not mean that they should help in everything and do everything for the child. On the contrary. It is important to give advice, but remain at a distance. It is so that the child can show their strengths and skills.
It is important to explain to the child that all people are in different conditions. Some have it easier, some have it harder. But this is not a reason to give up some desires and goals.
Confidence grows gradually. You should not expect your child to change dramatically, even with the right behavior on your part.
Remember that it is very easy to destroy a person's self-esteem. It can be done by the closest person, difficult life circumstances or the world around you. But it is very difficult to raise it. That is why it is so important to help your child to form self-confidence from childhood.
